They had sex. She got pregnant. She sued for child support. Now, he's suing back, contending that men have a constitutional right to "avoid procreation."
With the suit, Matthew Dubay, 25, of Saginaw, Mich., becomes the public face of a "men's rights" movement that contends men should have the same ability as women to decide whether to have children.
Supporters of the movement are calling the case "Roe vs. Wade for men"--a precedent-setting case that could define a man's right to choose parenthood.
The case is the first to assert a constitutional freedom to "choose not to be a father" under the equal protection clause, said Dubay's attorney, Jeffery Cojocar.
Child support isn't the only issue at stake: Dubay doesn't want any of the other legal or emotional responsibilities that come with parenthood, Cojocar explained.
The National Center for Men had been planning this kind of legal challenge for more than a dozen years and recruited Dubay as the plaintiff. "There's such a spectrum of choice that women have--it's her body, her pregnancy," Mel Feit, the group's director, told the Associated Press. "I'm trying to find a way for a man also to have some say over decisions that affect his life profoundly."
Legal experts said they don't think the case, filed Thursday in U.S. District Court, has a prayer of success. "It's a lost cause," said Charles Kindregan Jr., a professor at Suffolk University Law School in Boston.
Having sex is an inherently risky enterprise and the only way to enforce a man's right not to father a child after conception would be to compel the woman to have an abortion, Kindregan explained. "The courts are not going to buy that," he said. "That's her choice, not his."
The facts of Dubay's case are common to many romances that don't turn out the way people hoped.
"I can understand why people might be sympathetic to Mr. Dubay if he was duped into becoming a father," Boyer said. But if the child is his--as is the case--"this shouldn't be about him and his rights; it should be about this child and the child's needs."
Dubay's phone has been ringing off the hook over the past 24 hours.
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